Monday, June 14, 2010

Find You Find Love: The Desire for Desires

“Boredom: the desire for desires”

-Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

11.  What bores you? What always bores you? And what never bores you?
(See the Find You, Find Love post for context.)

Ummm...I don't get bored.


I've actually known this for a long time and have expressed it to other people. I've got 99 problems and boredom ain't one. Doesn't mean I'm enamored by mandatory meetings, excited about traffic, or riveted by lengthy lines and long-winded speeches. When in a situation I can't leave, my brain snaps into daydream mode (which for me is a very satisfying pastime, considering there's an ongoing plenary discussion inside my head).

But as far as sitting at home, bored...with good health, a vehicle, a TV, a cell phone, a pile of books, an appetite, and a handful of unfinished crafty projects?

Does not compute.

“The cure for boredom is curiosity," Ellen Parr said. Apparently folks left curiosity behind in their youth, back when we made up games to play alone or with friends, back when we explored the backyard and the attic, searching for nothing but the thrill of discovery, back when a long bike ride was the treasure of a summer day.

In fact, when people declare their boredom, I would imagine it's like a slap in the face to God, like saying, "I'm alive and I have no idea what to do with myself." It's ungrateful. How many people are rotting in their graves who would have wished for a few more days above ground, while you're bored with life?

The chief offenders—no disrespect to the senior set--are the bored retirees. My head refuses to wrap around the idea of money in the bank, freedom to spend my time as I please, and not loving every second of it. Are we so conditioned to being told what to do for 40-plus hours a week that we can't entertain ourselves? Retirement is wasted on the retired.

"Children that spend their whole day being taxied from one organized play date to another organized baseball game, they never learn that they can have experiences unmediated by adults," said author Ayelet Waldman in an interview with Terry Gross. “I am kind of terrified about the idea of a world governed by these people who've never had to govern themselves." While Waldman is talking about modern-day childhood, her point can apply to adults who don't use their resources and imagination to satisfy their own time.

Karolvig Viggo Mortensen said it best: "There's no excuse to be bored. Sad, yes. Angry, yes. Depressed, yes. Crazy, yes. But there's no excuse for boredom, ever.”

You will also surely enjoy:
"Find You, Find Love:  Till Death Do Us Part...No Murder Involved"
"Worth the Woo"

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