Wednesday, December 17, 2014

We Are Different to Different People

I used to work for a guy who was a horrendous manager. He yelled at people. He was unappreciative. He was petty. A question that sometimes came up in our ongoing happy hour rants about the guy was how in the world he could be married -- and to a beautiful woman at that.

That was some years ago. I would not question that now.

Sunday, November 30, 2014

Is It Ungrateful to Want New Jordans?

I consider myself a pretty grateful person. I'm the type that walks outside in the morning on my way to work and looks up at the sky to admire its blue. I bow my head in grace over virtually every meal, no matter how small. And I tend to live in a constant state of awareness of my good fortune.

But, I am hardly the eternal optimist -- you know, those folks who rummage through a crappy situation and announce to the rest of us the existence of a sliver of a silver lining. I prefer to analyze the scene before I take a position on how one might or should feel about it. That doesn't mean I look for the negative or that I am a negative person. It means I try not to avoid the negative. It's a part of the story. Context is everything.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

If Only School Was Like the Real World

In more ways than one, being in school is unlike anything you will ever do in life. But one thing I’ve come to appreciate is the orderliness of it. All year long, classes are scheduled to begin and are scheduled to end. You come in, you grind, then it’s on to the next. You can continue the relationships you want to keep and you can leave the rest. You can keep the book or you can sell it back.

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Lock Screen Motivation: Talk Less, Grind More



aka "Don't just talk about it, be about it."

aka "Talk the talk, now walk the walk."

aka "Actions speak louder than words."

aka "Faith without works is dead."

There are so many notable quotables around this idea because it's a problem. It's good to talk about what you want to do. In fact, it's necessary. But too often, that's the end of the story -- talking about it.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

News Flash: It’s Uncomfortable Outside the Comfort Zone

I toyed with word choice, searching for the smallest, most watered down way to tell a boss whose insecurities kept us all on eggshells that I’m pursuing an MBA.

I settled on “I’m in school, this is where I attend.” Basic. No flair. Humble. And most importantly -- non-threatening. After all, with my networking activities ramped up (because I do, eventually, plan on taking my skills elsewhere) and our mutual contacts, it was going to come out and it needed to come from me.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

What Bathing and Motivation Have in Common

“People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.”- Zig Ziglar


For years, probably since I was a teenager, I’ve jotted down inspiring quotes -- in my notebook, on Post-it notes, on colorful construction paper I tacked to the wall. These words moved me to action, soothed my spirit, built my confidence, and encouraged my endeavors.

However, it never failed that, over time, the same quote that used to make me give pause in the morning and reflect, the same song that used to brighten my mood...no longer had the same effect. In some cases, there was no effect at all. This bothered me. If it did it for me then, why doesn’t it do it for me now?

Friday, May 23, 2014

The Way We Were: It Matters How You Treat Your Ex

So who’s going to date V. Stiviano now?


Unless you’ve been on a media fast the last two months, you’re well aware of L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling’s ex-girlfriend who recording him making some seriously appalling comments. And you’ve probably participated in, read or watched discussions about Sterling’s bigotry and illogical rants.


That’s not what I’m here to talk about.

Saturday, February 8, 2014

2014: A Year of Purpose...and Pleasure?

I remember as a teen, contemplating the international baccalaureate program at a local high school. I definitely had the chops for it, but I knew people in that program—it was intense.

It wasn’t the demands of the program that threw me; it was the all-consuming nature of it. For four years, you couldn’t do anything but be in the program. No extracurricular activities, no part-time job. No life. Even at the age of 15 or 16, having a life was important to me -- and not just in that "hanging out with friends" kind of way.